time to learn…

being a new comers in a new environment is little bit unpleasant. when you move to a new environment, such as a new school, or may be a new country, you will find a new environment that different from your previous environment. you will meet a new culture, some new friends, new tutors, and even a new place to study. living in a new environment needs some adaptations, in addition to get survive in the new place. there’s some unpleasant reasons about being a new comers.

first, if you become a new comers in a place, you will find some cross culture/culture shock, even it just a very small difference. it is not that easy to make it going together in harmony without any frictions. some people are not open enough to express their opinion, they prefer to communicate it in an implicit way. on the other hand, some people are very open to express their opinions and their feeling. people in the second group, when they feel they need to say something, they just say it explicitly to the point. a friend of mine, doesn’t really sure to say ‘no’, and she often did something that she doesn’t really like it. in contrary, if i don’t like something, I’d like to say it better than not. some people think it is impolite if i ask some snack to my friend if my friends did not offer me some of hers. but I think it is normal. i can’t just use telepathy to know what are my friends wanted of me? it is much better if they say it.

the other reason it is unpleasant, is because when you meet new people, you must learn about their personality that you did not know before. when you meet new people, one of them can be very selfish, the other is very humble, and another is easy to get angry. it’s is not that easy to understand them at the first sight. but that characteristic can be seen after some interactions.

actually, the point is not about how unpleasant the situation that you faced in being a new comers, but the point is how we survive in our new environment. i know it’s really difficult for someone to get along in a new environment. actually i do too. i feel rather uncomfortable with the people in my new environtment. they have some quite different personality than my previous friends. if i just getting angry when some of them make me upset, or i just become very reactive, i can loose my friends and become alone. i cant force them to be the one i want. so i have to adapt with them, but still be my self. you can find alot of difficulty in controling your emotion when you feel upset. but this the time to learn.

this the time to learn. may be your condition is change till 180 degree than you previous environment. may be in your previous experience, you can get eerything you want easilly, and now you have to do more to get the thing you want. dont worry, that will make you strong. when you feel your new friends does not really welcome, that is okay, that will make you even stronger. even though you can choose what you want to be, become better, or worse. the winner use that impact to mek them stronger. if their friend do not welcome them, they force them selves to socialize with their friend. even that was unpleasant to be dismissed by other people, but soon, the winner will prove that they are the winner, and they deserved to be the winner. their environtrment will welcome them. so it’s time to learn and be the winner.